If you are as conversant on Twitter, like I have been recently, you should have seen the video of three penguins in a love triangle. A husband penguin came home to a cheating wife and a fight ensued between the male penguins, to prove their love to the wife penguin. Sound so weird, we are talking about penguins now but through this article you’re about to read, I learnt a thing or two about the episode and decided to share it with you. Here’s When to Let Go- A Penguin Tale by Meghan Odjesa, for The Guardian Life Magazine. Enjoy!
PS: The link to the video will be somewhere at the end of this article.
I woke up on Saturday morning to a video of two male penguins fighting over a female penguin. I found it hilarious to an extent but at the same time it was quite saddening considering the fact that the husband penguin was willing to fight for his wife at the expense of his own life. At that point, I thought, “husband penguin, wait a minute. Sometimes, you just have to follow your brain and not let your emotions get the better of you, what in penguin name are you doing when you cannot even fight?”
After seeing that video, I realized that both humans and animals are similar in a lot of ways, especially when it comes to relationships – they both find it difficult to let go. Every day, I think about the fact that people stay with their partners even when they see all the cards played out, leaving them on the losing side. You hear things such as, “we will try to work things out” or “he was not like this one year ago when we started dating, he was extremely loving”. I believe there are certain things that cannot be worked on or are not worth saving especially when the other person shows no interest. Whatever it is that is going to crash will crash, it would only take longer amount of time due to the “let’s try and make things work” mentality. However, people would rather hold on (no matter how detrimental it is to their wellbeing) rather than letting go. Most times, people hold on just because they are afraid to start all over again.
Relationships require utmost commitment from the individuals involved. Contrary to what most people have come to accept, I totally believe that infidelity in relationships is caused by the lack of love. Cheating on a partner means there is lack of love and respect, therefore the moment love is lost between partners, respect diminishes and infidelity creeps in.
Using the husband and wife penguin as a case study, it was obvious that the wife penguin had fallen out of love with her husband but the husband was still very much in love with his wife and was willing to forgive her and take her back. To protect this relationship, he was willing to fight off the home wrecker so his wife could come back to him.
To love or not to love is a choice and wife penguin made her choice and there was no turning back. Recognising this fact was supposed to be enough reason for him to move on, instead he decided to fight for his wife due to the memories they shared together and he was probably scared of starting all over again on his own.
Relationships are not suppose to die down, they should grow stronger with each passing day. It is important to remember that a few happy moments, should not be enough to hold on to toxic relationships. Especially relationships that results in the case of losing ones dignity and values in the process of holding on to an unrepairable relationship.
“Sometimes, it requires more strength to let go than to hold on”.
Many thanks to Meghan for letting me share this article, I totally loved it!
Thank you so much for reading. Click HERE to watch the video of the penguins.
Till my next post,
Always reflect God’s perfection xx.